Are You Approachable? (2)

Taken from The Vine
When the Holy Spirit controls our lives He will produce... kindness, goodness... gentleness.

Galatians 5:22-23 TLB

Approachable people exhibit the following characteristics: (1) Personal warmth - they truly like people. In an old Peanuts cartoon, Charlie Brown says, "I love mankind, it's just people I can't stand." Hello! It's not enough to love people in theory, you have to generate personal warmth toward those you meet each day. (2) Their moods are consistent. Have you ever worked with someone whose moods were constantly up and down? You never knew how they'd be. In contrast, approachable people are even-keeled and predictable. They're basically the same way every time you see them. (3) Sensitivity toward people's feelings. Although approachable people are emotionally steady, that doesn't mean they expect others to be that way. They recognise that good people have bad days; consequently they tune their moods to the feelings of others and quickly adjust how they relate to them. (4) Understanding of human weakness, and exposure of their own. Novelist Ed Howes said, "Express a mean opinion of yourself occasionally, it will show your friends that you know how to tell the truth." Approachable people are honest about their abilities - and shortcomings. They embrace the old proverb which says: "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused." And because they can admit their own faults, they don't have a problem allowing other people to have faults as well. (5) The ability to forgive and ask for forgiveness. Author David Augsburger wrote, "Since nothing… we attempt (Isaiah) ever without error, and nothing we achieve without some measure of the finitude and fallibility we call humanness, we are saved by forgiveness."

Are You Approachable? (1)

Taken from The Vine
When the Holy Spirit controls our lives He will produce... kindness, goodness... gentleness.

Galatians 5:22-23 TLB

Dr. John Maxwell writes: "Sooner or later, a man, if he is wise, discovers that life is a mixture of good days and bad, victory and defeat, give and take. He learns that it doesn't pay to be a too-sensitive soul, that he should let some things go over his head. He learns that he who loses his temper usually loses out, that all men occasionally have burnt toast for breakfast, and that he shouldn't take the other fellow's grouch too seriously. He learns that carrying a chip on his shoulder is the easiest way to get into trouble, that the quickest way to become unpopular is to carry tales of gossip about others, that buck-passing always turns out to be a boomerang, and that it doesn't matter who gets the credit so long as the job gets done. He learns that most others are as ambitious as he is, that they have brains as good or better, that hard work, not cleverness, is the secret of success. He learns that no one ever gets to first base alone, that it's only through co-operative effort that we move on to better things. He realises (in short) that the 'art of getting along', depends 98% on his own behaviour toward others."

So, what about you? Jesus said, "Consider carefully how you listen" (Luke 8:18 NIV). When was the last time someone brought you news you didn't want to hear? Or strongly disagreed with you? Or confronted you? If it's been a while, you may not be a very approachable person. We can give no greater gift to others - than putting them at ease.